La Gran Aventura Day 126: Rest Day in Villafranca Montes de Oca

Monday, April 15, 2024

This morning Betty woke up feeling much, much better. This day of rest is just what we needed. We woke up late (around 7am), and we’ve just spent the day writing and reading and getting updated on Facebook. We also did some laundry (by hand), and washed out our mess kits, and had some lunch (bocadillos), and now we’re ready to rock and roll for tomorrow.

I’m so grateful for priesthood blessings and modern medicine. They are a great combination!

The day has been really chill throughout. I was able to get all the way caught up on my writing in Day One, and I’m also caught up on Facebook. The kids and I also had a chance to watch a bunch of Agents of SHIELD together.

Betty is feeling much better, so we’re going to walk tomorrow. Our goal is to get to Atapuerca. That’s 18k, which will be the most we’ve walked in quite a while.

This afternoon we went to the local market (very, very small) to get some food for dinner, and it quickly devolved into a little firestorm. The next time we buy it needs to NOT be everyone, and we need to have a better plan.

It was contentious for a bit, but it was also a good opportunity to practice our communication skills. And things went really well. Betty took the lead and really did a great job of calming the waters. I’m so grateful for her. She’s the best!

Everyone is really trying to have all their stuff in order tonight so that we can get an early start on the morning. With a fuller day of walking tomorrow we need to get an early start so we don’t feel rushed walking. Betty’s feeling better from her illness and infection, but we’ve still got her feet to take care of.

Just to update the totals, we’ve walked a total of 256 km on the Camino -- that’s over 160 miles! We’ve got 510 km left (about 318 miles).

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La Gran Aventura Day 125: Belorado to Villafranca Montes de Oca

Sunday, April 14, 2024

This morning we woke up and would have been ready in record time, but Betty had a really tough night and was feeling pretty terrible. Even still, she got up, and we hiked the 12k to Villafranca. During the walk she didn’t talk much. She’s got a sore throat and body aches. She is really sick. I’m not sure how she made it. She was really dragging by the time we got in, and as soon as we got in the albergue, she crawled into bed.

I went to see if the store had anything we could use to make a tea for her. On the way to the store, I saw a medical clinic. When I got back to the albergue, we called the number, and they said they could see her at the clinic in Belorado. So she and River and I hopped in a taxi and headed to the clinic. It turns out she has not recovered from the bladder infection, and now with this cold she’s developed an ear infection as well. They got us on a new regimen of antibiotics, and they told us we needed to rest at least a day.

I’m honestly amazed she made it this far. She’s been battling infection since at least Roncesvalles. That’s  250+k (over 160 miles) hiked with infection in her system. No wonder she’s not been feeling well.

The Camino is such a personal thing. All pilgrimage is. I’ve had so many people tell me over the past couple of weeks that it’s totally OK for her to take a taxi or a bus for a day or two or more. We know that. She knows that. That was our agreement from the outset. We knew that doing this with the kids would be difficult, and we were both fully prepared to use those means of transport as an option. As recently as a few days before we started hiking -- when we were in Barcelona -- Betty’s main goal had been to finish as quickly as possible, and she was looking forward to maybe skipping out on a couple of days so that the older kids and I could move more quickly. But the Camino has a way of working on your mind and soul, and somewhere around Pamplona Betty made the decision that she wanted to walk the entire way to Santiago. I respect that, and I support her in it. The kids respect it as well. Except for a difficult moment a few days ago, they have been on board with taking things at the pace she needs to follow.

In our church’s general conference last fall Sister Tamara Runia gave a talk called Seeing God’s Family through the Overview Lens in which she said the following:

Before we interact with a loved one, can we ask ourselves the question “Is what I’m about to do or say helpful or hurtful?” Our words are one of our superpowers, and family members are like human blackboards, standing in front of us saying, “Write what you think of me!” These messages, whether intentional or unintentional, should be hopeful and encouraging.

Our job is not to teach someone who’s going through a rough patch that they are bad or disappointing. On rare occasions we may feel prompted to correct, but most often let’s tell our loved ones in spoken and unspoken ways the messages they long to hear: “Our family feels whole and complete because you are in it.” “You will be loved for the rest of your life—no matter what.”

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Remember, families are a God-given laboratory where we’re figuring things out, so missteps and miscalculations are not just possible but probable. And wouldn’t it be interesting if, at the end of our lives, we could see that those relationships, even those challenging moments, were the very things that helped us to become more like our Savior? Each difficult interaction is an opportunity to learn how to love at a deeper level—a godlike level.

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[T]he adversary does not want us or our loved ones to return home together. And because we live on a planet that is bound by time and a finite number of years, he tries to perpetuate a very real sense of panic in us. It’s hard to see, when we’re zoomed in, that our direction matters more than our speed.

Remember, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.” Thankfully, the God we worship is not bound by time. He sees who our loved ones really are and who we really are. So He’s patient with us, hoping we’ll be patient with each other.

So we are going to be patient and we are going to go together. We will stay in Villafranca one more full day tomorrow. It’s a sleepy town with very little to do, so I think it will be a good rest.

Betty has taken the medicine that they gave her, and she took some tea River and I made for her (cinnamon, onion, garlic, and cayenne pepper), and she’s telling me that she’s feeling better.

Because today was Sunday we had a little testimony meeting about what the Lord is teaching us so far on this journey. I was so impressed with the kids. They are paying attention and learning so much.

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La Gran Aventura Day 124: Redecilla del Camino to Belorado

Saturday, April 13, 2024

I think Betty’s got a cold. She’s feeling pretty terrible. She didn’t do well last night, and today’s walk was not long, but it was slow. Her feet are a bit better, but this cold does not look good. She just can’t catch a break.

On the hike to Belorado it got very hot, and Ian started having really bad stomach- and headache. He thinks it was an adverse reaction to some cow’s milk we had for breakfast. We took a break and hosed him down with water from our bottles and covered him in a wet towel. Eventually, he got feeling well enough to make it into town.

Belorado is just another of many super tiny towns on the Camino. There isn’t much to it. The albergue here is OK, though, and Marta, the hospitalera is really nice. She put us in a room away from the men (we’ve got a few women with us), and she even cooked up some pasta for us when she saw the kitchen was occupied by some other pilgrims.

I think Betty night need a doctor for this cough, but the clinic and pharmacy here in town are closed because it’s Saturday.

In the afternoon the kids and I learned how to play the card game Euchre. It’s very popular in Michigan, so now we feel like true Michiganders.

We also took River to the park, and that was good. Also, Alicia put a bunch of braids into Ian’s hair :)

Oh, and we had hamburgers for dinner. That was great!

I’m not sure how tomorrow is going to go. We may have a forced stop here.

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La Gran Aventura Day 123: Santo Domingo de la Calzada to Redecilla del Camino

Friday, April 12, 2024

Well, our weird night last night turned into a weird day today. We decided to do a half stage today, so nobody was really in a hurry to get out of the albergue. Energy and motivation are really low this morning.

Before we left town, I wanted to see the cathedral of Santo Domingo de la Calzada. It’s such a small town to have a cathedral, but it’s basically here because of the work of one man, Santo Domingo, who dedicated his life to helping pilgrims. The cathedral is also famous because there are live chickens inside it. They are the descendants of some chickens that are tied to a miracle that is tied to Santo Domingo. We waited an extra 30-45 minutes for the cathedral to open so we could see the chickens, and I’m glad we did, but the none of us were really impressed. They are in a cage and up high where it’s difficult to see them.

After the Cathedral, we were all in a bad mood. I walked a lot of the day by myself (I mean, I never really walk by myself, I’ve always got River talking in my ear). The weather has really gotten hot, and the last part of the day today was really hot. We started in April so we could avoid the hottest months of the year, but today it was close to 80 degrees. If the heat continues, it’s going to be a challenge.

We arrived at our Albergue in Redecilla del Camino a bit like what Betty would call “cucarachas fumigadas” (fumigated cockroaches). José the hospitalero was out waiting for us, and he was super nice. Up to now we’ve stayed only in big municipal or parrochial albergues. Tonight we stayed in a private one. They tend to be a little more expensive, and the host prepares dinner and breakfast for you. When we got to the albergue, José wouldn’t let me pay for the food -- only the beds. I was so grateful I almost started crying. After the past couple of days it was such a tender mercy. He told me that years ago he did the camino with his daughter, and he knows how expensive it can be.

The afternoon was really lazy. We did have a good seminary lesson memorizing doctrinal mastery scriptures with the kids.

Betty’s feet are really sore again. She feels terrible about it. We just don’t know what to do. She needs rest -- quite a bit of it, but generally you can’t spend more than one night in an albergue without a note from a doctor. We’ve got to figure something out because I don’t want her to get really injured, and I’d love for her to be able to walk the last part.

I helped José with dinner (it was the least I could do). He is quite a character. He’s into studying personalities and energy from the earth, and he’s been a fireman, and he was involved in organizing protests against municipal governments in the Basque Country, and now he’s a hospitalero. My favorite moment of the evening was when he did a personality analysis of Alicia. He couldn’t have been more wrong. He told her she was the quiet type, and that she is the kind of person who won’t speak up for herself. He warned her that in the future she is going to have a manipulative boyfriend, but she’s not going to want to break up with him because she doesn’t speak up for herself. Alicia and I just smiled and nodded at him and that winked and laughed at each other.

But he’s kind, and he’s an amazing chef, we’ll give him a pass.

Dinner was amazing. We ate with a few other pilgrims, and it was just great. José made a delicious creamy soup made with leeks and mushrooms and cream and cheese. And he made a simple but delicious cheesy pasta. We had homemade apple cake for dessert. One of the pilgrims was an older gentleman from Canada, and at some point during the meal he just broke out in mouth trumpet song. Yes, you read that right. Mouth trumpet. He was actually really good, and he told us he’s recorded albums and “played” at funerals and on the radio. It was another unique Camino experience.

Oh, and Alicia realized that your reflection in a spoon is actually upside-down.

Tomorrow we go another 12k to Belorado.

I feel like if we can get through this weekend we’ll be OK.

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La Gran Aventura Day 122: Nájera to Santo Domingo de la Calzada

Thursday, April 11, 2024

This was our best morning yet. I had my doubts about this albergue yesterday, but I love it this morning. They started playing music to help people wake up, and by the time we were about out the door it was a full-on party. I need a copy of that playlist!

Betty is definitely feeling better. It was tough, but her foot was doing much better. Today we have planned a full stage.

On our way out of Nájera we met a really nice Dutchman named Stewart. To say Dutchman is to say nice. They are the warmest, nicest people I’ve met on the Camino. There isn’t one of them that isn’t kind. Stewart is blogging about his journey and wanted to write about our story, so we talked for a while, and then we stopped at a bar and he bought orange juices for everyone. I’ll post his story if I can find it :) (See below)

There was one steep climb today up to the town of Cirueña. At the top of that hill there is a shady spot where you can rest and sit on a bench. When we got up there we met Frank and Jane Steck from Minneapolis. They said they had heard about us and were happy to meet us. She took a picture with us to show her school kids back home, and he was visibly moved when he thanked me for bringing my family on the Camino. It’s cool to see how our family is inspiring people back home and on the Camino.

We got to Santo Domingo at a really great time, and we got a private room in the best albergue we’ve seen up to now. This place is huge and really nice. We soaked our feet in cold foot baths, and had a nice dinner of Cesar salads -- thanks to Alicia and Anahi.

After that, unfortunately, things went downhill. The boys were not very grateful to eat healthy salad for dinner, and that was dumb. Then Alicia started feeling homesick and frustrated. We ended up having a long talk. I think with her things boil down to the fact that we have been gone for a really long time. We left on our grand adventure on December 11th. She misses her friends. She misses school. We have had to slow our pace quite a bit because of Betty’s foot, and we aren’t really sure when we will be done with this. We haven’t even bought return tickets yet because we don’t know if it will be early May or late May or even early June before we are done.

As she talked about the challenges of the Camino, I couldn’t help thinking about what awesome preparation this journey is for her future mission. So many of the challenges she describes are the things missionaries (and parents) face every day. We wake up. We get ready for the day. We leave the apartment early. We spend the day walking around. On same days we meet a bunch of different people. Some of them are weird. On other days we hardly talk to anyone. We get to our home in the afternoon or evening and then we have to take care of dinner and get ready for the next day. And we do it over and over and over. And we just have to keep going until the end. The big difference, and the one that weighs on the kids sometimes is that if we walk faster and cover more distance each day, we get to go home sooner. For missionaries (and parents) it doesn’t matter what you do. The end will come when it comes. You just have to keep going day after day.

The conversation with Alicia and Betty was really draining, and tonight I just feel a bit off. I know we are doing amazing, but I just can’t seem to get out of this funk. Maybe I’ll feel better in the morning. I’m so grateful for the prayers and well-wishes of family and friends. They really help me to keep going on days like today.


Todd walks in the distance. But I didn't know that at the time. Todd is carrying a child. This child's name is River. I didn't know either. That came later and it went like this. There are children walking on the path. With backpacks and that is quite special. So I catch up. Todd introduces himself as Todd. Todd here and no further I think but I swallow the joke. Todd is from Utah and is a Mormon. There are five children and a Mexican woman. River is sitting on Todd. I think River is a beautiful name. It flows. Pantha Rhei. Some names flow like Eve. Others flow less, like Whitney. The Maharishi Yogi is located in Vlodrop. Because Vlodrop flows. Hence. Todd takes his children around the world. They visit Mormon churches everywhere. They call those temples, which sounds more exciting but is the same. Todd walks and River sleeps. On Todd's head. And I think of my own River, her name is Nynke, and that her head once slept on mine. Todd does it, he walks to Santiago with River. The teacher at school also allowed it. A little later they are standing next to the terrace. I buy seven orange juices and now River can go on the terrace. That's nice. And now I also have to take a picture with Todd and River. The little Mexican mother hugs me and I hug her. Friesland embraces Mexico. So that's how it should be. And all I want is a river on my head and walking on and on. And then she sleeps. With her head on mine. I'll walk. Together.

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La Gran Aventura Day 121: Navarrete to Nájera

Wednesday, April 10, 2024

One more update after the hilarious incident of Captain Underpants, the lion, and the Hulk: this morning we were walking and talking about it and laughing, and I mentioned that audio sound I could hear. Then Ian looked at me and said “You could hear that?! I had it on the lowest volume and it was under my pillow!” He had been listening to a Spanish audiobook on Audible on his phone. And all the time I thought it was Captain Underpants ... Lo siento mi capitán.

Packing this morning went much better. We started by waking up the kids and taking them directly to the dining room for breakfast. That woke them up so they could pack better. Could that have been the secret all along?

It was another good day of walking. We started out by meeting a couple of really nice Spanish ladies. That always helps Betty. Before we knew it we were in Nájera.

We also had a nice rest in Ventosa where we got some delicious smoothies courtesy of Uncle Lamon. Thanks Lamon!

Betty’s foot is feeling better. The pack service is definitely a game changer for her.

This was another chill afternoon. The boys made pasta and salad, and everyone took cold showers. I’m waiting for mine to see if the water will warm up (it did ... a little).

The two lions are back in this albergue, but we haven’t seen the Hulk. Hopefully it will be more peaceful tonight than last night.

This evening I also went to visit the church here in Nájera. It’s a historic city because it was the capital of the Kingdom of Navarre for a long time. The church has a bunch of tombs of the kings and queens of Navarre, and it also has a cave where one of them is said to have found a statue of the Virgin. It’s all beautiful and fascinating. I love this old stuff.

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La Gran Aventura Day 120: Logroño to Navarrete

Tuesday, April 9, 2024

This morning Betty made the difficult decision to use a backpack transport service. She didn’t want to, but with the way her foot is feeling, it seemed like the best option.

It turned out to be a good choice because her foot wasn’t as sore today as it has been. We also did another short stage -- just 12k (7 miles) from Logroño to Navarrete. And they were 12 pretty easy kilometers. Her ankle just got sore right at the end.

We are staying at a municipal albergue. These are generally the cheapest option on the Camino, and their quality is really hit or miss. Today was ... a miss.

The hospitalero (person who runs an albergue) was a man named Rafael, and he was really nice, but a bit of stickler for the rules. In pretty much every albergue we’ve been in so far the hospitaleros have been as accommodating as possible. The albergues tend to have a bunch of beds that they generally fill up from front to back. But many hospitaleros will put our family in the very last beds and they fill from the other direction. Because we are in the slow season still, the albergues don’t often fill up, so we have some privacy at the end of the row of beds. Also, most albergues have the beds divided into smaller rooms of 6 or 8 or 10 or 12 beds. Usually a hospitalero will put us in a room by ourselves and only put other people there if the entire albergue fills.

But Rafael was determined to put us in order. That means that we shared a room with three older men. Two of them were from Spain and the other (we call him Hulk) was German (I think). Hulk was huge, and he wore super baggy pants (like a pirate or a clown) and crocks. He kind of gave off Fezik vibes (from the Princess Bride).

Anyway, right off the bat, we knew this room was going to be interesting. Not only did we share the bedroom, but the bathroom was shared as well. It had two or three stalls and two showers. The showers had no locks on them, and the doors were made of semi-transparent glass. So showers were out of the question for the girls.

Also, we hadn't  been in the room for more than a few minutes before this older Spanish man just walked out of the bathroom, freshly bathed and wearing nothing more than a pair of tiny blue undies. He just walked out like he was in his own home, sat down on his bed, and started getting dressed.

After that little culture shock, we actually had a nice evening. Alicia and Anahi took a bunch of initiative. They had some money I had given them a few days ago, and without our knowing they asked Rafael for directions to the supermarket and they went by themselves and got food for dinner. I’m so proud of them!

Then the night came.

And the snoring started.

At first it was the guy in bed next to me and below Ian. He was snoring so loudly the ground was practically shaking. These were massive snores, like a lion. Next to him on the bottom bunk on the other side was Captain Underpants, trying to clap to wake up the first guy.

Also, I could faintly hear something playing in Spanish. Like an audiobook or a radio program or something. It was so soft I couldn’t make out hardly any words. Just enough to know it was a woman’s voice and she was speaking Spanish. I was thinking “Who is the knucklehead who just plays audio like that in the night? Do they think nobody can hear it?”

The Hulk was on the top bunk, and I could hear him muttering and cursing to himself in a mixture of German and English.

Then someone started ringing the doorbell to the albergue. Over and over again. I could feel Hulk getting more and more angry.

Then he snapped.

He loudly and angrily climbed out of his top bunk wearing a t-shirt and undershorts, and took his sleeping bag out into the kitchen/dining room. Then he stormed back into the room, grabbed his mattress off the top bunk where he’d been sleeping, and took it out into the dining room as well.

Through this Betty and I were texting each other and trying not to laugh out loud.

This is definitely a night to remember.

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La Gran Aventura Day 119: Viana to Logroño

Monday, April 8, 2024

Everyone was grumpy this morning. I had hoped that after the wonderful rest day we had yesterday, things would be better today, but they aren’t. Betty’s foot is still really sore, and the kids are frustrated because we only walked about 10k from Viana to Logroño.

In Spanish there is a saying: “Salida de caballo y parada de burro.” It means to go out like a horse and stop like a donkey. That’s what we did. That first week we really cruised, but we’re definitely paying for it now.

But even in our grumpiness, the Lord blessed us. We were hiking for just a few minutes when Alicia said: “I really need to find an LDS family that we can walk with today.” Within about 2 minutes, a couple of ladies walked passed us, and one of them looked at my hat and said “BYU!”

The ladies were both LDS and from Arizona. We walked with them for a while, and we were so happy to see them.

I knew that hat would come in handy.

Also, in Logroño we ran into some friends from Texas that we met in St-Jean-Pied-de-Port on the first day. They seemed really happy to see us.

Because of the short hike, we got to Logroño early, and we were able to have time to just relax.

Also, this albergue is a little weird. The municipal albergue wanted to make us pay for a bed for River, so we went to a private one. Betty asked if they had a kitchen, and they said they didn’t have a regular kitchen for pilgrims but that we could use their private kitchen that they use to make breakfasts and things for the pilgrims in the mornings. That sounded like a good deal, but then the guy never actually let us use the kitchen. He kept telling us that he didn’t want other pilgrims to see us back there. So in the end, we didn’t have a kitchen. Thankfully, Betty had the impression to get just pizzas for dinner, which we were able to heat up in a toaster oven that they had there. Another tender mercy.

In the evening Betty and I went out and talked to some guys at a shoe store. Betty’s wearing Hokas, and they are still in great shape. Betty had wondered if she maybe needed some insoles, but the guy wouldn’t sell her any because he said her shoes are perfect for the Camino.

So I dropped Betty off at the albergue and then I went for a walk to clear my head and take some photos of the church. I also called my brother Spencer, who is an athletic trainer. He had some ideas about what might help Betty, but the bottom line is she is going to be sore until she stops hiking. But she doesn’t want to stop hiking. So we’re not sure what to do. I feel like I need to follow her lead on this one.

She’s got her heart set on walking this whole way, but I’m not sure that is going to be possible. It makes me sad because I know it makes her sad.

I just have to trust the Lord is going to guide us.

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